TALKING GIRLS & SELF CONFIDENCE

8 November 2017 Birmingham, UK


This post was most definitely inspired by the totally and utterly beautiful Alice Catherine, who writes a series called 'Girls Support Girls'. Her series is trying to bring girls together who have faced similar issues, so people don't feel alone. So, even if you don't read the rest of this post, go and give some of her posts a read because they're so heartfelt and honest. 

Alice used the below quote and it really grabbed me; I'm certain it will resonate with a lot of you too. 

"Women like looking sexy, but it doesn't mean we want to fuck you."

- Cate Blanchett

I wanted to talk about the above quote Alice made reference to in her post. I know it's mainly focussed on the sexualisation of women but I also think it can be heavily linked to self confidence. I know when it comes to a lack of self confidence I'm not alone but, the reasons for that lack of confidence, again swing back around to the above quote. It's a cycle and a vicious one at that. 

Women like looking sexy. YES! yes we do (despite this outfit being far from it.) So why should we walk along the pavement feeling scared that we may be cat called? Or be given sexualised looks? Let's be real, it's happened to all of us. We've gone out in our favourite skirt or tight fitting trousers and feel great about it... until we step out the front door. It like you have eyes in the back of your head and suddenly those old men sat on the nearby steps seem a whole lot more intimidating. It's pretty shit (sorry) that we live in a society where it tries to focus so heavily on safety yet, the basic biology of being a woman makes you a target and therefore compromising that safety. 


For as long as I can remember, my long legs have been something I've had a love hate relationship with. On holiday, I'm fine, the people I see aren't my locals, the weather is warm and everything is a whole lot more relaxed. With a mojito in hand, those short shorts are out in full swing but the second we land back on english soil they're thrown to the back of the wardrobe, not to be seen until another sunny holiday comes looping around. Of course, we don't regularly have the weather to waltz around in short shorts here in the UK but, regardless, I don't feel comfortable doing it based on some of the above points and I know that ties back to my fear of being heckled when I go out. 

I feel pathetic even saying any of these things and I think it's sometimes why I dress the way I do. I've never been one to dress overly feminine (as you can see on this post) - give me oversized or relaxed fit any day - but I do like to dress up and wear something a little 'sexier' once in a while. Just because I'm wearing something low cut or tight fitting 'doesn't mean (I) want to fuck you' so don't look me up and down as to suggest I do. 


Charlotte

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